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The things that go bump in our heads.

Trust me.

There isn’t a Halloween goblin, ghoul or ghost that’s half as scary as the thoughts that creep into our minds at night.

No matter how sunny I am by day, I still find Worry, Fear and Self-Doubt lurking around my bedroom at 3 AM.

It can happen anytime, anywhere.

It even happened in Bali.

Years ago, my husband Will and I were on a magical vacation.



And then, psychotic.(Cue the scary music.)

It all began when I woke up in the middle of the night and discovered a gang of mosquitos had turned my thighs into their personal buffet.

The bites were not bite-size. And they itched like crazy.

Normally, I would have rubbed Calamine lotion on and called it a night.

But not this time.

Not when I had read that Balinese mosquitos can transmit Elephantiasis.

You heard me.


(Who needs Google with all those horrific images on my mental monitor?)

All night,I tossed, turned and obsessed over my already zaftig thighs.

I could swear they were swelling to freak-show proportions right before my very eyes.

Finally, morning showed its face.

And thankfully, my thighs were  Elephantiasis-free.

All that worrying for nothing.

Ever been there?

No, I don’t mean Bali (although I strongly recommend it.)

I mean Worry Hell.

It starts innocently.

You think about something you forgot to do.  Or wish you hadn’t said.

Before you know it, you’re worried about that stack of bills, your kid’s report card, your parent’s health, the 11:00 news, computer viruses, bird flu. global warming and all the wrinkles you’re getting from worrying.

I’m not saying there isn’t plenty to be concerned about.

But staying up all night, haunted by What If’s doesn’t help.

Here are a few simple things I’ve found that can:

1. Stop feeding the monster. Your mind thrives on fear. It’s allergic to gratitude. The next time you find yourself freaked about the past or fretting about the future,say “Stop.” And focus on how soft your pillow is. How juicy that apple was. How lucky you are to be alive. And anything else you’re grateful for.

2. Imagine the best case scenario. Let’s say you lose a client. Instead of picturing how hard it’s going to be to find a new one, what if you played a different game with your mind? Imagine running into someone who knows someone. And that someone  becomes your best client ever. Paying you twice as much as the other one and…well, you get the idea. As Louise Hay says, “Think thoughts that make you feel good.”

3. Change the movie in your mind. Our minds are our own internal DVD players. I, for one, am not letting Freddy Krueger into my room at night. Instead, I’ll choose a musical comedy with a happy ending like this one. I picture dancing with Gene while it’s raining thousand dollar bills. (Hey, it’s my movie.) Take out that pretend remote control and enjoy.

Oh, and have a Happy Halloween.

May the only things that go bump in your night, be those sweet little candy-seeking monsters knocking on your door.

As always, it would be such a treat to hear from you.

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